“When we judge others, we are giving our power away by finding fault in the external world. Recognising this allows us to accept ourselves and find our personal power within” – Malise Banks
Are you ready to take back your power and find your inner peace and freedom?
Anger, frustration and resentment are all signs of feeling powerless. And we feel powerless because we perceive ourselves as having lost our power to an external force.
Often, we falsely believe that when we get this external ‘thing’, we will be happy again, right? We then blame someone for taking our power.
We all do this!
However, the truth is that no one ever took your power! We have to give it away for it to be taken in the first place.
Like me, you have probably been fooled into giving away your power, many times over. In fact, this is still a big part of our cultural programming. From the moment we enter this world, we are taught to give it away.
This doesn’t happen intentionally though!
The good news is that times are changing. Our culture is gradually shifting and we are becoming more conscious of our mental, emotional and spiritual health. Is that you too?
With awareness you can take back your power. Are you ready to find your inner peace?
Tips to Help You Find Your Inner Peace
I coach many women to find their inner peace and take back their power. And many of them tell me they just don’t know where to start!
So I thought I’d share some easy tips with you today that might help you to navigate this new level of awareness.
The time to find your inner peace and power is NOW!
Being aware and asking: Am I In Judgement?
We can start by catching yourself in judgement. It’s so easy to go into judgement! This often presents as the urge to label an action as ‘wrong’. When we judge ourself or others, it helps to remember the following:
1. Remember, we're always doing the best we can
When we catch ourselves judging someone else, it helps to remember that the person is doing the best they can with the filters of perception they currently have. They genuinely are doing their best.
Aren’t we all?
We don’t need to try to understand them, or we will get caught up in our mind – and that’s an insatiable number of rabbit holes! In addition, that is not where our inner peace lies either!
2. Replacing Our Judgement with Acceptance
Acceptance does not mean we approve of something. It’s okay not to approve! But we can still be accepting.
Well, acceptance is knowing that the majority of people in the world right now are acting unconsciously in ignorance.
This then allows us to replace that feeling of judgement with acceptance. Acceptance is simply recognising the truth that we are all doing the best we can.
They are not doing anything on purpose to hurt each other, they are simply doing the best they can.
When we accept someone, warts and all, we no longer have any urge to try and change them, thereby moving us from a powerless state to a powerful state. This is taking back your inner power! And this is where our inner freedom lies.
Ultimately, it all comes back to you. We are giving our power away when we search for external changes to make us happy.
Judgement, instead of acceptance, is common in our culture and is a direct reflection of the way we have been treating ourselves.
Inner peace truly starts to show up when we equally stop being hard on ourselves and love and fully accept ourselves and our choices.
You are always expanding – so you can be sure that you will find yourself loving your personal choices as you level up with conscious effort.
Sound difficult? Yes, it takes practise. But it does get easier, I promise.
This is Moving into Your Higher Consciousness
When we start to do this we are moving into higher consciousness.
Our higher consciousness helps us recognise when we are giving our power away in judgment, guilt and obligation. It helps you replace this with personal boundaries that will keep you standing in your power and inner freedom.
There is of course a lot more to this – but I just wanted to give you a place to start today!
3 Neuro-linguistic Pre-suppositions that Can Help
So, just to get your started, I’m going to leave you with 3 relevant Neuro Linguistic
Programming presuppositions that will help you move into your power.
Are you ready?
Here we go!
1. Respect the other person’s model of the world
Remember that we all have our own unique lens or filter of reality depending on our values, memories and beliefs. Some see a love story while others see only pain and suffering.
2. The map is not the territory
Remember that people respond to their ‘map’ of reality, not to reality itself. How people make sense of the world around them is through their senses and from their own personal experience.
3. Behind every behaviour there is a positive intention
Remind yourself that behind every thought, word and deed is a positive intention (however annoying and negative it may seem to us).
It can be easier to avoid judgment when we know this truth!
If you are struggling with repeated patterns of judgment or issues with holding space for yourself, please get in touch. I’m here to help!
You may also like to read about my inner conflict with the law of attraction.
Personal power and inner strength are activated when you take the hero’s journey within.
And when you have someone guiding you, step by step, the journey to inner peace can even be enjoyable instead of super uncomfortable!
Please reach out, I’m here for you.
Ready to Take Back Your Power and Find Your Inner Peace?
Malise Banks is an Intuitive Coach and Counsellor who helps you take back your power and find your inner peace! Malise’s clients reviews are filled with stories of big shifts she has helped them with. So, whether you are navigating judgement, powerlessness, anxiety, addiction, perfectionism, or relationships – Malise is the coach for you.